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EmailFinding a good man is only half the
battle to a lifelong relationship. The other half of the battle is retaining
him. Keeping a man requires more skills than finding one. Beauty is only skin
deep. After a man gets to know the woman, her attitude determines if he will
stay or leave her.
Outer beauty
Men judge books by the cover before
reading it. Before a man can get to know a woman, the woman’s outer charm and
beauty must first grab his attention. While being an attractive woman certainly
helps as the eye candy, the looks are not the only factor. If a woman dresses
with class, then she will attract a man with class himself. It is not just the
way the woman dress, but also how her friends dress as well. If her friends
attract the right men, then the right men will approach.
Inner beauty
After men read the cover to the book,
he read the pages. If he likes the book, then he will keep the book forever. A person’s
attitude is a reflection of their feelings. Be careful. Disagreements and
fights can be constructive or destructive to the relationship. While
communication is very important to understanding each other’s feelings, the
attitude can also project an ugly inner beauty. Here are some guidelines.
· Take
turns listening to each other.
· Do
not frown too often.
· Try
not to shout.
Also, women should not expect a man to
do everything. A relationship is not a one-way street. It needs to be a
balanced relationship. What’s in it for him? If a man takes a woman to the
movies, she should offer to buy the popcorn. If a man buys a woman a gift, she
should buy him gifts too. If things are balanced and equal, there will be fewer
issues for the couple to argue about. Remember: If a woman is looking for a
long-term relationship, then she needs to bring something to the table.
Do not sabotage
yourself
Women should not let the fear of
getting hurt prevent her from opening up to a man. She should give herself a
chance without the past blocking her happiness. When a woman find a man, she
can still sabotage herself by her attitude and judgments alone.
· Do
not stereotype men
· Give
a new relationship hope instead of worrying about it ending early
· Be
optimistic about everything
Men take offense of stereotypical
comparisons. The phrase: ‘All men are the same’, is only true if you treat them
all badly, and they all run away. Everyone is different, and should be given a
fair trial at the relationship. Everyone is innocent until proven guilty.
Women should not find themselves
wondering, “How long will this relationship last”. Men find pessimistic women
unattractive. Give a new relationship a fair chance. Do not make comparisons
with previous relationships (out loud). If a woman needs extra attention or
excitement to her relationship, drama should not be on the list of what to
bring.
Be optimistic. Men love to be given the opportunity to win over your heart. Men love to see where things go. It is fun to take a chance. Dreaming about “what if” gives you and him something to shoot for together. Instantly, the two of you have a common goal.
