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EmailMen will never commit to a woman unless
he feels like he has to in order to prevent from losing her.
Ladies, it will take some time to
manipulate your friend’s mentality to boyfriend status if he is not ready to go
steady. However, there is some good news for you: there are some methods to
speed up this transition.
Stop the booty calls
The key part that defines the “friends
with benefits” stage is the frequent phone calls you receive for sex. Stop
responding to those calls. Start explaining what you are looking for. Here are
some examples of what to say
· “I’m ready for a
serious relationship. If it’s not with you, then I need to focus on someone
else”
· “I’m concern that
you’re going to get hurt if we continue having meaningless sex. It appears that
you’re developing feelings for me”
Stop the sex and tease the living hell
out of him. Make him fantasize, as he itches for more. Become unpredictable and
you will gain his attention more.
Men are driven by
competition
Make him think that you have more guy
friends that you are currently talking to. Make him feel that if he doesn’t
step up, one of your other friends will. Make him think that you’re sharing
this same conversation with other men. Men take competition seriously. They
like to accomplish things and beat other guys for the prize.
If you are not dating other men, then
keep pretending that you are. In the meanwhile, go ahead and find other men to
date. It will make things easier. As you hang out with other male friends, be
completely up front and honest about everything. Never tell other men that you
are looking for a fling or friends with benefits with them or else you will get
stuck in that agreement.
Make him jealous. Give him hints that
you have other stuff going on in your life. And hint to him that the other
stuff involves other male friends. Don’t give him details about your business
either. It is important that you let his imagination run wild. Remember, his
insecurity is what will make him commit to you. Make him want to take you off
the market. Until he “claims”you as his own, you’re not his.
Flip flop him
If you want to stay on a man’s mind,
then you need to mix the signals you are sending him. Example, give him a lot
of your attention and stoke his ego with complements. Then, shift your priority
with him and treat him like one of your gay friends. I’ll explain. First,
complement his looks. If you don’t, he might give up fighting for your
attention. Sometimes men forfeit the fight for you if they don’t think they can
win. Here are some examples:
· “You
look pretty hot in that shirt”
· “I
can’t keep my eyes off your biceps, have you been working out?
· “You
have amazing hands”
Here comes the “flip”. Another day you
see him, treat him like a gay friend and ask for advice about other men.
Example:
· “It’s nice to have a
guy like you as a friend who I can talk to”
· “You’re a guy. I need
some advice about men”
The basic idea is, keep him close to
you. But don’t give him the idea that you are chasing him. He needs to know you
have your options. He also needs to know that you are interested in him. Do not
give men the power of thinking they are the main person you want. Remember, the
main point of this “Flip Flop”technique is to bring back men when you start to
lose their attention.
Get it? One minute he’s your “gay”
friend, the next minute you flirt and seduce him. Use this technique and he
will beg to switch from friends with benefits to boyfriend in no time.
Are you losing patience? Too bad. You
don’t control how fast he’s ready to get serious with you. However… (let’s get
evil)… you could say something like, “I can never figure out why you don’t have
a great girlfriend”.
What if he has other
female friends too?
Then you have competition too. Here’s
how to win. Play it cool, and don’t show jealousy. He already knows that women
get jealous, so don’t play him stupid. However, if he sees that you’re calm
about the competition with his female friends, then he will respect your
dignity. Basically, he will think “I want a woman that will not go crazy”. Put
this into your permanent memory: Quality
men test women, to see how stable she is before he commit to her.
