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EmailA picture is worth a thousand words. Eye contact is worth more because eyes are the windows to the soul. However, the eye contact is also like a two edge sword. Live by the sword, die by the sword. Too much eye contact can turn off the woman. A lack of eye contact fails to land her respect. Balance is the way of the force.
Lack of eye contact is commonly interpreted as
· Disinterest in the person or conversation
· Thoughts wandering
· Not listening or paying attention
· Shyness
· Lack of confidence
· Anxiety
None of those negative signals are the messages you want to send toward a potential mate. In the dating game, the only value in negative messages by the eye is to avoid someone.
Too much eye contact is commonly interpreted as
· Intense personality
· Overly fixated
· Psychotic or simply crazy
· Over-keen
· excessively keen or enthusiastic
· Desperate
Too much eye contact will make your potential date feel uneasy and uncomfortable around your presence.
The proper balance of the eye is simple. Give the person brief eye contact just to send the message that they are attractive and worth your acknowledgement. During a conversation, break eye contact. Breaking eye contact will allow you to compose your thoughts better. Make sure you return the contact while she speaks. Breaking eye contact is fine when you’re speaking back. When you tell a joke, a lack of eye contact help make the humor less serious. Returning the eye contact on the punch line (or punchline) signals the highlight of the joke.
Another note: excessive staring will get the woman’s attention from a distance. One the other hand, excessive staring can also land you in trouble if she has a buddy observing you.
