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Ladies, you can’t attract all men using
the same approach. Each man is different from the next. Example: dying your
hair blond may attract one guy, and turn off another. Do not spend too much
time on details that vary a lot from men to men. A few things you can try
adjusting are: your attitude, confidence, smell, how you dress, your smile, eye
contact and attention. Those type of adjustments lead to a more broad result
among men.
The attitude
Attitude is very important. A smile on her face is most important when she is
trying to get his attention for the first time. The smile compliments eye
contact very well. Eye contact with a guy sends a signal that he is invited to
speak with her. The required attitude to attract men is simple. However the
required attitude to keep the man requires more work. Women’s minds are more
complex than men. As a result, women critique men a lot as an attempt to mold
him into a better man.
Lower expectations
and critique less
Women are attracted to successful men.
Either she will attempt to land the best man from the beginning, or she will
accept a man with potential and mold him to success. This is where things go
bad. Do not try to change a man. It will lead to frustration to both partners.
Men and women like to be accepted for
who they are. Women should not try to shape a man they will like more.
Encouraging a man to work harder is ok. However, critiquing a man to do
something he is not willing to do on his own will lead to him wanting out of
the relationship. Do not forcibly push a man out of his comfort zone. If women
lower their expectations of their man, then she will be less frustrated of him.
Women need to believe in a man’s ability to achieve his goals. Be optimistic
and encouraging. Do not force or heavily critique. Men also like having a woman
at home that will comfort him when he returns from work. Help him relax, make
him happy. Note: He needs to make his woman equally happy too.
So, how can women attract some of the
more established men? Well, there are two approaches.
· Raise
to his level by being beautiful and to his exact liking
· Raise
to his level by intellectual properties and career success
The first approach is the temporally
method. Nobody stay young and beautiful forever. If a man only cares about
beauty, then his woman will always be compared to the best on the market. It is
highly advice to ignore this approach.
The second approach is the secured
approach. What is in it for him? What is in it for her? Relationships need to
be a mutual arrangement. If both partners are equally independent financially,
then nobody will become frustrated over who owe who. CAUTION: Women may
struggle to find men if she is highly successful and powerful. Many men run
away because of the challenges she could bring. In those cases, the man is not
worth it.
Women should know her
strengths and weaknesses
A woman can always use her advantages
to secure her man. If she is good at something, then she should definitely
apply it at a regular base. A man need to be reminded why she is unique.
Example:
· She
is a great cook
· She
is great at cleaning
· She
is great at balancing the checkbook
· Her
memory is better than his, therefore she reminds him of things he forget
· She
is more organized, therefore she keep everything in order.
Women should not attempt things that
she is not good at, unless she attempt them while he is not around. Practicing
on weaknesses will turn them into strengths.
In general, women are
better managers than men.
Let’s face it; men are single track minded people. Women are great at performing multiple tasks at the same time. So, this is a fact all women need to build from if she is searching for her strengths. If a woman is clueless about what her strengths are, then she should start with that simple fact. Do simple common stuff, at one time.
